In a quandary British formal prepositional phrase
A state of not being able to make decisions what to do and make you feel unsure or confused
I had two job opportunities, and I'm in a quandary about which of the jobs to accept.
David is in a quandary about which choose between eating noodle and beefsteak
This idiom is often used to express that you should accept an unpleasant situation or event because you cannot change it.
When you experience extreme and undesirable situations, it is probably essential to take extreme actions
"state of perplexity," 1570s, of uncertain origin, perhaps a quasi-Latinism based on the Latin quando "when? at what time?; at the time that".
If you fall for someone's trick the first time then they are at fault.
Are you going to mess with me again? Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.